Match 19th, 2024
I am humbled and honored by the outpouring of support for my book. Many people have asked why I choose to publish the "dirty little secrets" of my family and medicine. Many have asked if I am worried about what my family will think. Other have asked if I am worried about being ostracized in the healthcare community.
My answer to all of the above is a resounding NO. I am not worried. In fact, I am trying as hard as I can to get the word out about my father's story. If it makes someone uncomfortable, good. Maybe uncomfortable is where we need to be right now. Maybe being comfortable is being complacent? It is time we talk about physician suicide and and work on real meaningful solutions rather than just putting band-aids on on the dam.
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March 6th, 2024
My book was published earlier this year and it has been an overwhelming personal success. I am so happy and excited to share my dad's story with the world and I hope it helps others as much as it has helped me. Everyone has something going on below the surface that they are dealing with and we all have or have had challenges in life. As the saying goes, it is not about what happens to you, it is how you handle it that matters most. Don't let adversity define you. Stay positive!
June 11th, 2024
I have been away for a while due to a family emergency. My daughter's father, my ex-husband, passed away after a 13 month battle with glioblastoma multiforme. It is by far the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my entire life. It is one thing to experience suffering yourself with the loss of a loved one, it is something totally different and gut wrenching about watching your child suffer. While I was not aware of this at the time, the death of my father prepared me for this challenge. The death of my father forced me to discover myself and my values which has helped me to define my identity. The world will always change and there will be times of chaos. If you anchor your identity to your roles (mother, daughter, doctor, etc.) you will have a hard time coping when you loose that role. You must anchor yourself to you identity (strong, passionate, curious, etc.) as these things do not change as roles change. They anchor you to your core values and beliefs and ground you when the storms hit.
September 4th, 2024
Today is a day to talk about you. Are you taking care of yourself? When is the last time you did something for yourself; a massage, a night out with friends, shopping for fun, etc. To be a good doctor, parent, spouse, person, you must take care of yourself. If you are not in a good place, you can not help others. When your mood is bad, it shows and others will notice. Self care is underrated, but so important. Your goal this month is to do one thing for yourself. It does not have to be big, but it needs to be for you. This month I plan to get a massage. What are you planning to do?